Frictionless Relationships

Everyone has that one person they feel like they can tell anything. More than likely, its someone you've known for a long time, or have gone through some meaningful experience with. It may be a parent, partner, or childhood best friend. Think about a friend you have, that you've known forever, that you can say whatever you want to. Now think about what it was like when you first met them. Or maybe it's a current or former romantic partner you've had. You probably reached a point that you were so close with them that you felt like you could read each other's minds. But think about how shy you may have been when you first started talking.

There is a level of ease that comes with knowing someone for a long time. Over time, we let down our walls and let other people in. There is a great deal of vulnerability necessary to form a functional relationship with someone. This is because vulnerability signals trust.

The more trust there is in a relationship, the less friction. Maybe you can recall a time where you've broken someone's trust. Trust can be repaired, but there is often a period where you have to work past the extreme levels of friction in communication. If someone has to ask themselves whether or not they can trust you to respect their vulnerability, they will likely become very closed off and distant. If this isn't taken care of, relationships fall apart. This is often times what results in the downfall of many people's romantic, social, and professional relationships.

By committing to someone long term, you're making an investment in them. The kind of investment that potentially could result in great returns for your life. By picking the right partner, you could potentially create a beautiful family together with kids, a dog, and a nice house. There are few things in this world that have a more direct impact on overall satisfaction, then a loving home, and a healthy, happy family.

All of these things are the result of the compounding effects of building trust and connection with someone, If you allow yourself to be open, you will see that things become a lot easier with someone. And this doesn't happen on a linear plane either. But each trust building experience will reduce the barrier for future experiences to occur. Hence, things get easier over time. If you want your relationship with someone to flourish, make certain that you are doing what is necessary for things to follow an exponential path.

"A fit body, a calm mind, a house full of love.These things cannot be bought - they must be earned."

"Intimacy is not the act of physical intertwine, but the isolation of two minds"